Is Sexuality a Choice?

Is Sexuality a Choice?

Short answer, yes.

I can understand that you may not actually be able to choose who your attracted to, however you do have a choice as to your actions.

I think that we are born blank. Our experiences shape our preferances. Your experiances have shaped you towards homosexuallity. However that does not actually make you a homosexual. What makes you a homosexual or heterosexual are the actions you take and the thoughts that you have.

You might be attracted to other males, however your attraction is not visible. You can chose to date women if you desire to hide your attraction to males. Therefore you can choose to be heterosexual by having sexual relationships with only females.


The problem with this, obviously, is that you will be going into a relationship with someone whom you have no attraction to. You would be lying to your girlfriend and yourself. If you are alright with this option, you may choose it.

My point is that you can choose to be homoexual or heterosexual even if the attraction is not there.

Maybe choice is the wrong word. Lets say: no one can help who they are attracted to, but those are attractions are not inborn/genetic. What truely defines your sexuality is your practice.