Re-Evaluation

Finding, keeping, and enjoying friends who will support you is important because this will result in a fulfillment of your basic emotional needs – to be recognized, understood, and heard.

“The (friends) who are constantly draining you, spiritually, emotionally and at times financially with no returns whatsoever are the ones to let go of. When a relationship seems like a one-way street, run the other way.”
With friendship being the business of childhood, it’s hard to understand how as adults we can get so wrapped up in ourselves and our work that we don’t have time for friendships.

But how many times have you perhaps heard people say that they don’t have time for you or don’t have time for more than a certain number of friends. I think that an attitude like that contributes to what is already an overtly stressed person.

There comes a time in all our lives when we may need to evaluate our relationships, making sure that they are having a positive effect on us, rather than dragging us down. Without realizing it, we may be spending precious time and energy engaging in friendships that let us down, rather than cultivating ones that support and nourish us along our path.

Life, with its many twists, turns, and challenges, is difficult enough without us entertaining people in our inner circle who drain our energy. We can do so much more in this world when we are surrounded by people who understand what we're trying to do and who positively support our efforts to walk our path.

We can begin this evaluation process by simply noticing how we feel in the context of each one of our close relationships. We may begin to see that an old friend is still carrying negative attitudes or ideas that we ourselves need to let go of in order to move forward. Or we may find that we have a long-term relationship with someone who has a habit of letting us down, or not showing up for us when we need support.

There are many ways to go about changing the status quo in situations like this, having a heart to heart with our friend showing through example. This process isn't so much about abandoning old friends as it is about shifting our relationships so that they support us on our journey rather than holding us back.

An important part of this process is looking at ourselves and noticing what kind of friend we are to the people in our lives. We might find that as we adjust our own approach to a relationship, challenging ourselves to be more supportive and positive, our friends make adjustments as well and the whole world benefits.

I am revaluating all of my friendships currently, on the basis of what people say, do and how they treat me. If you are one of those people who have said one thing done another, then I think we will part company. As it has happened once, it will happen again.

As on the ‘meeting’ you state things, which make me believe you, and then you ‘change’ and somewhat abandon me.

I don’t need these people; I need consistent, tolerant, non-changing people.

If you haven’t heard off me in a few days take it that you have been unsuccessful in the revaluation. You are however welcome to re apply, please ask for details.